Let the World Experience You
Week 4 of 4: Stop waiting. Start showing up. This is where confidence is built.
Let’s bring it home.
This is the final part of a series I’ve been writing on what it really looks like to claim your power—your full power. And if you have been following along, know how grateful I am.
We’ve talked about responsibility.
We’ve talked about using everything you’ve got—head, heart, and gut.
We’ve talked about distinction.
And now—this one’s about putting yourself out there. Letting the world experience you.
Because what good is all that clarity, awareness, and power if you never let yourself be experienced?
And I don’t mean perform.
I mean experienced.
Through your voice.
Through your presence.
Through the way you move through a room, a space, a feed, a moment.
You don’t have to be loud to take up space.
You don’t need to be polished to be powerful.
But you do have to be willing to be seen.
The Pattern Of Holding Back
A few years back, I had a client—an absolute powerhouse. But when it came to her cofounder, she’d hit the brakes. She’d shrink. She’d let him take up all the space, even when the room was clearly hers to lead.
It would’ve been easy for me to say, “Keep your foot on the gas pedal.” But instead, I asked her a different question—one that could unlock the pattern, not just the moment:
“Where else in your life do you hit the brakes?”
She paused. Thought. Then said: “Tennis!”
She described walking onto the court confident, focused, ready. She’d play strong. She’d compete. She’d be in it. And then something would shift. A moment would come—mid-game, in the lead—and she’d pull back. Let her opponent win. And she didn’t even realize she was doing it—until she said it out loud.
Something in her had been trained—consciously or not—to protect other people’s comfort before expressing her own power.
So we didn’t start our work in the boardroom. We started on the tennis court. Because that’s where her nervous system knew the pattern. And that’s where we could start rewriting it.
The warm-up she needed wasn’t a pitch deck or a strategy session. It was a forehand. A serve. A shift in posture. A full-body reminder:
I’m allowed to play all the way.
And once she did it there—it followed her everywhere. Not as a performance. But as her full expression.
Confidence Is The Result
That’s the thing about putting yourself out there: it doesn’t always start where you think it should.
Sometimes the reps begin in the places that feel low-stakes. The places where your body remembers, and where your mind can finally release. And that freedom? It’s everything.
Because confidence isn’t built by waiting.
It’s not built by proving.
It’s not built by getting it “right.”
Confidence is built by moving. By expressing. By being fully in it.
By showing up before you feel ready.
By letting yourself be experienced before you have all the answers.
We’ve been taught that confidence is the prerequisite. But it’s not.
It’s the result.
Because freedom is what builds confidence—not the other way around.
This Is The Real Art
I believe we’re all artists in our own way. And I know I am.
The way I lead this business is an art. I tell my husband often—I’m painting a fucking masterpiece. And that masterpiece doesn’t come to life in a spreadsheet. It comes to life in the tools we create. In the conversations we open. In the lives we impact. In the ways we let ourselves be experienced—fully, freely, unapologetically.
That’s the real work.
That’s the real art.
My Story: Taking Up Space
Sometimes we get so literal.
I’m not a writer unless I get paid to write.
I’m not a coach unless I get paid to coach.
I’m not [insert your thing] unless money’s attached.
But claiming starts with action, not income. I was a coach long before I ever got paid. And you better believe I claimed that space.
Because why would anyone ever pay you—if you’re not even claiming it?
How will anyone ever see you—if you’re not taking up space to be seen?
Here’s my story on taking up space:
A few years ago, I remember venting to Eric about how so many of our friends would ask him about his business—and never ask about mine. At first, sure, I could’ve just written it off: Sexist. Self-absorbed. Clueless.
But the truth? These were our friends. That wasn’t what was happening.
What I really noticed was this: Eric took up space. He inserted himself into conversations. He talked about his business.
And I did the opposite. I held back. I stayed small. I didn’t make it easy for anyone to ask about my work—because I wasn’t offering it up.
So instead of getting mad at Eric, I took notes.
I take a lot of notes from men.
And I started to do what I saw him do—in my way. I started speaking about my work. Bringing it up. Claiming it.
And guess what? People started leaning in. They started seeing me.
But it didn’t happen because I waited for an invitation. Or blamed people for not asking. It happened because I started showing up.
The Elephant In The Room: Social Media
Now let’s talk about the elephant in the room: SOCIAL MEDIA.
How much time have you wasted tweaking a caption?
Overthinking whether to post or hold back?
Polishing something you created… just to leave it in drafts?
Put your fucking work out in the world. For YOU.
I always go back to what Rick Rubin says:
“The audience comes last.”
Creation is for the artist. It’s a sacred act of self-expression—not a strategy for approval.
You think Van Gogh was fucking thinking about someone else when he picked up his brush?
You think Frida gave a shit about likes while she was painting her pain, her identity, her truth?
And what about Virgil?
You think he waited for permission to disrupt fashion, art, culture, systems?
He didn’t care if it made people uncomfortable—he cared if it was honest, if he believed in it, and if it was him.
They weren’t creating to be liked.
They were creating because they had to.
To process.
To feel.
To say something that only they could say.
They created to feel free.
They didn’t ask, “Will this land?”
They asked, “Does this move something real in me?”
Are you creating from your whole being—or from your head?
Are you doing it for yourself—or for someone else?
I often think about what Seth Godin says, “You don’t need everyone. You just need someone. Start with one.”
So I do. When I write my Substack each week, I hit publish because I feel moved by my words. And if even one other person is moved too, that’s enough for me—because I trust the process.
And I trust that the more true I am to myself—and the more consistently I put myself out there—the more people I will impact.
Let This Be The Start
In two weeks, we’re kicking off the Put Yourself Out There Challenge—and yes, it’s completely free.
One month.
One community.
Two live workshops with me.
Daily expression—your way.
Whether it’s writing, sharing something on social, speaking your truth in a meeting, pressing publish on a post, or finally telling someone what you really want—this is your invitation to stop hiding and start being experienced.
No pressure to be perfect.
No waiting until you’re ready.
Just four weeks of showing up with intention.
From your gut.
For you.
You’ll get prompts, accountability, and community support—but more than anything, you’ll build the muscle of putting yourself out there without asking for permission first.
Power doesn’t come from being perfect. It comes from being experienced.
You don’t need more polish. You need to stop hiding.
This is the final piece in my four-part series—and the start of your challenge to put yourself out there.
No permission needed. Just presence.
All details come out in our RIPE newsletter next week, sign up on our website linked below.
And in the meantime—remember this: the work always starts in the moment.
Look at the areas where you’re still hitting the brakes.
Start practicing what it feels like to keep your foot on the gas.
Here are 10 ways to start putting yourself out there today:
Share something on social that reflects your truth—not just your feed’s aesthetic.
Say what you really think in a meeting.
Send the email you’ve been sitting on.
Write from your gut, not your strategy.
Tell someone what you actually want.
Record a voice note instead of over-editing a text.
Start the project before you feel “ready.”
Publish the thing you’ve been afraid to share.
Own your expertise out loud—don’t downplay it.
Accept praise without shrinking, explaining, or handing it back.
Pick one.
Move through it.
Then keep going.
Because showing up isn’t just how you build confidence—
It’s how you remind yourself:
You are worthy of being experienced.
This might be the hardest one yet.